Montezuma County Sheriff Steve Nowlin on Thursday told participants in a community meeting that school policies must adjust to the dangers of bullying.
Nowlin, whose granddaughter took her own life, spoke to about 70 concerned parents, teachers, school officials, counselors and students who gathered at the Cortez Recreation Center to discuss suicide prevention and the problem of bullying.
“Apparently it did not happen soon enough, but there will be changes, and I will see to it because this cannot happen again,” said Nowlin. “I lost my best friend, and I don’t want you to lose yours.”
He said the sheriff’s office will help lead the way to help prevent bullying. He suggested more classes on youth behavior and coping skills, and more parent participation in the schools “every day, not just during special events. We all need to step up.”
Marinda Harrison, organizer of the Four Corners Bully Prevention forum, put on the event in response to two recent juvenile suicides in Cortez and Dolores. The goal is to bring awareness, promote solutions and identify youth programs already in place, she said.
“The reason for this meeting is to build ties, figure out what programs we have and make them bigger and better,” Harrison said.
Dozens of parents and students gave personal accounts of being bullied or knowing someone who took their own life.
Heather Nowlin said bullying played a role in the death of her daughter, Alana Dawn Nowlin.
“She’s not here because of bullying, and as a community we need to stick together to help our children. We need to work better with the schools and give students the emotional tools to handle situations like bullying,” she said.
A family friend said “much older” children bullied Alana. And the child’s grandmother, Kathryn Nowlin, said the family was aware of some bullying but “did not know how bad it had become.”
“I am still in shock,” she said, “and am here because I want to do something about it so no family has to go through what we are going through.”
Students need to learn respectful behavior and how to stand up for themselves, said Sheila Wheeler, of the Tree House Learning Center in Cortez.
“I was bullied as a child until given permission to take care of myself, not back down, and become less vulnerable,” she said. “Kids need strong advocates that give them strength to tell people to leave them alone.”
Another parent said her child was being bullied at a Cortez school and she regretted not knowing that it could lead to suicide.
“My daughter has been bullied since the eighth grade. I can’t get it to stop, and I don’t know what to do,” said another parent. “I’d like to learn the parenting skills to teach them how to handle those situations.”
Parents also expressed frustration with communication with their children, a lack of activities for children, bullying on social media, and what schools can do about reports of bullying.
Since 2014, Dolores has had a sheriff’s deputy in its schools to promote safety and communication. Deputy David Van Bibber is stationed at the school every day, and reports to the sheriff’s office, which pays for the position. Reports of student bullying, crimes and arrests at Dolores schools are investigated by the sheriff’s office and are available as part of the public record. The Journal includes summaries of such reports in its Sheriff’s Blotter.
Still, officials face a disconnect between parents and children. Nowlin attributed some of that to misuse of social media.
“It’s one of the biggest problems we have,” Nowlin said. “It is different for kids today than when we grew up. Parents need to know what their kids are doing all the time and be ready to help and intervene.”
At the forum, parents and students filled out forms with ideas about how to address bullying and suicide.
“We have all the resources we need right in this room to get things started,” said Harrison. “When we all work together and care for each other, it will make a difference.” The Four Corners Bully Prevention program plans to hold another meeting next month. For information, go to their Facebook page at www.facebook.com/4cornersantibully.
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Action team will discuss suicide prevention
Training, developing resources and listening to the community will be the next steps for local stakeholders in the effort to prevent suicide.
Various area agencies were represented in a group of about 30 that met Friday afternoon at the Cortez Police Department. The Re-1 School District and Ute Mountain Ute tribe were represented, as well as various youth services organizations and local law enforcement agencies.
Kellie Willis of the Piñon Project and Rebecca Larson of Omni Institute led the meeting.
“I’m guessing you’re all here because there’s more we can all do,” Larson told the group.
The meeting was a followup of sorts to a forum Thursday hosted by the Four Corners Bully Prevention group at the Cortez Rec Center. While that meeting focused on personal stories of bullying struggles, the focus for Friday’s event was suicide prevention and community development.
Group members first identified projects that are going well in the area, which included educational programs, crisis response teams and relationships between schools and law enforcement agencies.
Larson then asked each person in the group to write down strategies that could be improved or developed further. People worked in groups to whittle down the lists, which eventually became focus areas for improvement. From that, the group developed lists for the next steps, which included more training, developing and researching resources, as well as listening and prioritizing with members of the community.
An eight-member action team, including people who attended the meeting, will move forward with those focus areas. The Piñon Project will continue working with the action team and group members.
The action team likely will organize some public meetings to get input from the community, Larson said.
“How do we centralize our resources and make sure people know what’s out there,” Larson said. “Everything will be documented to see how to start moving forward.”
